November 21,2021 RESPECT

Whatever happened to respecting elders?  Respect--"due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others." That's the respect I'm talking about. I'm shocked by the lack of respect the younger generation shows today.  When did this become okay? So--do kids NOT respect their own parents anymore? Is that where this comes from? Is it the trickle down effect? Are parents not behaving in a manner that fosters respect so that kids aren't learning it at home?  I NEED TO KNOW. When I was I kid--my brothers had to take their hats off and put a shirt on if they wanted to eat a meal. NO elbows on the table and PLEASE AND THANK YOU WERE THE MAGIC WORDS. Once--I actually held "the door" so long that -- I  missed a whole day of school. On a serious note--I'll never forget the ONE time I was disrespectful to my grandfather. I actually told him to "Shut Up" because he was teasing me about  being chubby. I was in fifth grade AND MY WORLD actually stopped for a minute. The shock and hurt in his eyes was more than I could bare. I apologized immediately but the hurt had been done.  I have never used those words again to tell someone to be quiet. I was being disrespectful--took responsibility--and learned a hard lesson. Maybe the problem is that parents don't make kids take responsibility anymore?? Or is it that parents don't take responsibility?  HUMMMM........on to bigger and much better things. I just finished reading one of my favorite authors--Amor Towles new book The Lincoln Highway. Emmett, one of the main characters, has just been released from a juvenile work camp after serving time for involuntary manslaughter. After being  dropped off at the family farm in Nebraska, Emmett is finally reunited with his eight year old brother, Billy, but they soon discover that they are not alone. Two of Emmett's friends from the camp, Duchess and Woolly have shown up needing help. All Emmett wants to do is leave Nebraska in his studebaker with his little brother to start over--and possibly find their mother in California-- but reluctantly agrees to give his friends a ride to Omaha first.  Once they arrive in Omaha, Duchess and Woolly take off in Emmett's  car leaving the brothers in pursuit of the car--that is now in New York--where they meet a cast of characters that make the story one hell of a ride. This highly entertaining story is a long ride down the Lincoln Highway that you will be sad to see end. It's about 600 pages or a 6 mile ride that I thoroughly enjoyed. 

November 6, 2021 MY GENERATION

Not sure I've ever mentioned this before but I'm actually Jewish.  I'm Catholic but I'm also Jewish. My mother was raised Jewish but converted to Catholicism and raised us as Catholics. According to Jewish law though --the Jewish status is passed down through the mother--so it's in my blood. I grew up raising a glass of wine and toasting  L'Chaim (To Life)--LOOKING at gefilte fish that totally grossed me out --eating Matzo ball soup and lighting a menorah.  I also grew up eating pork, shell fish, decorating a Christmas tree and  celebrating Christmas. I guess it was the best of both worlds.  My mother converted to Catholicism early on because she said that she always hated being Jewish. I never understood why--or even asked her about it until this week AND it was only after reading this wonderful memoir about another woman who converted in the 1940s. It would have been impossible for me to understand my mother's rational because generationally--I am so far removed from her situation that I would not have been able appreciate her thinking. I finally get it. Books. The places they take me  and the lessons I learn.  What would I do without them? I just can't believe it took me so long to find The Color of Water: A Black Man's Tribute to His White Mother by James McBride. This beautifully written memoir was a collaboration between McBride and his  remarkable mother Ruth McBride Jordan. Ruth grew up in the South. Her father was a rabbi and she was often persecuted in her white community for being Jewish, so she turned to the African American community where she was accepted. She eventually moved to Red Hook housing project in Brooklyn, married a black man and founded a Baptist church. She also became a mother to 12 children who all graduated from college. It is quite a story--laugh out loud funny at times, emotional at others and totally inspirational. McBride never knew anything about his mother's past until he was an adult when she finally agreed to share her history, then he finally understand his own place in the world. This National Book Award winner should be required reading for every human being. It's that good. At only 295 pages--it's a 4 mile run--that is worth every page. 

October 23, 2021 HARD HABIT TO BREAK

 

NEW ADDICTION---Pumpkin Spice latte with oat milk from Starbucks. It HAS to be STARBUCKS. Believe it or NOT--there' s a HUGE difference. I know a grande cost $6.50--which is RIDICULOUS--but it is worth every penny.  DD  is probably half the price--BUT--it's sickeningly sweet and fake tasting. I'm NEVER GOING BACK. I'm sure they're  both-- VERY FATTENING--So if I'm going to splurge--It's going to be on the best. It's like ice cream. Why eat crappy ice cream--when I can enjoy Ben & Jerry's Chunky Monkey right? Same goes for  a hot fudge sundae. If I'm gonna get one--it's gotta have real hot fudge-- real whipping cream-- and extra nuts too. Or eat a cake from Stop & Shop when the Cake Lady is far superior.  I have a friend who only drinks Budweiser. I don't understand. Why drink a Budweiser when I can have a Guinness--or Carlo Rossi when I can have Cabernet Sauvignon--or Bukoff  when I can have Grey Goose. Sorry--Getting a bit carried away but you get the drift. Why waste calories on JUNK--when I can have the good stuff. I only have ONE life to live. Better enjoy it.  It's a no brainer.  I'm just going to finish sipping my latte while I review Peter Swanson's new book Every Vow You Break. The main character in this thriller  set in New York City is Abigail Bakin, newly engaged to Bruce Lamb, a millionaire IT man. On the weekend of her bachelorette party in California, Abigial has a little too much to drink and has one last fling with a man named Scotty. Although she is guilt ridden, she decides to put it behind her and devote the rest of her life to Bruce. After a very elaborate wedding, the couple honeymoon on a secluded island in Maine where Scotty appears. Is he following Abigail and what does he want? While Abigail ponders her situation, strange things begin to happen on the island and her perfect husband suddenly doesn't seem so perfect. Find out what happens to Abigail, Bruce and Scotty when you read this page turner for yourself. Its a mystery with many twists and turns of about 300 pages or a 4 mile run that will keep you guessing til the bitter end. Enjoy. 

October 11, 2021 DREAM WEAVER

 Not sure what I'd do without the library. Seriously. I have a mild addiction to the place. I actually get jittery if a  few weeks go by and I haven't made a pilgrimage to check out what's new on the shelves.  It's one of my happy places. Where else can you go to BORROW YOUR FAVORITE THINGS. If I bought every book I've read over the years--I'd be a pauper or a hoarder because it's hard for me to give away books--especially ones I've bought. And Get this--if the library doesn't  have the book-- it can be ordered--FREE--from another library. They even send you an email when the book comes in. It's really a no brainer. There aren't many things left in this world that are absolutely FREE. Hope you take advantage of the library and their services and support the library by  Becoming a Friend of the Library. Heck--I just read a great book that was on the recommendation shelf from one of the librarians--that I'd never have spied on my own. It was called In Five Years by Rebecca Serle. The main character of this little gem is Dannie Kohan, an attorney living in New York City. She is one of those people who has planned out her entire life. She's just landed her dream job and gotten engaged--all part of her grand plan. One night she goes to bed and has a dream that changes her life. It is exactly 5 years in the future and she's in a different apartment, with a different man with a different engagement ring on her finger. She wakes highly disturbed by a dream that felt too real to be a dream. Five years go by and Dannie is still engaged when her best friend, Belle,  introduces her to her new boyfriend AND it's the guy from her dream. How can that be? Maybe it wasn't a dream? Don't want to say anymore about this book except that I had a very hard time putting down. It's a quick read only 250 pages or a quick 3 mile run that I thoroughly enjoyed. 

September 30, 2021 ROUND AND AROUND WE GO

Why can't we all just get along?                                                

Why haven't the gun laws changed?

How can we just accept all the violence in our society?

Why do people care more about money than human lives?

When did people become so hateful?

How did we get to this point?

How can we make things better for the next generation?

Will  Democracy even last in the United States?

When did people become SO self-absorbed?

How do we get people to think about the common good?

These are just the random questions clouding my brain lately that are making it very difficult to concentrate. UGH. Think I'll lose myself in a book review for a while.....

I just finished reading The Plot by Jean Hanff Korelitz and thoroughly enjoyed it. Imagine that you were a famous writer and now you are a has been. To make ends meet--you teach writing workshops on the side. There, you  meet a young writer--totally full of himself--who just happens to have the most amazing idea for a story that you've ever heard. Now imagine that the young writer dies and you think you are the only one left who knows the story. Would you steal it and make it your own? This is the dilemna Jacob Finch Bonner faces. If he steals the plot, then he will be back at the top--the best seller list--Oprah's stamp of approval --a possible movie. Sounds like a no-brainer right?  Find out what happens to Jacob after he steals the plot when you read this fast paced well-written story for yourself. It's 320 pages or a 4.5 run that's full of surprises. Enjoy. 

September 16, 2021 BACK ON THE CHAIN GANG

I'm either having trouble with time management---OR---there just aren't enough hours in the day. Back on the TREADMILL--work--run--yoga--read--blog--cook--AND NOW HIGH SCHOOL SPORTS--is thrown into the mix AGAIN.  Soccer EVERY day after school and then-- WHAT'S FOR DINNER--EVERY night at 6:00PM. It's a lot of pressure. Pretty sure I've been through this once before......HUMMMMM. Yup--back in the saddle again and determined to enjoy every minute. Can't tell you how much I missed high school sports after my daughter graduated. And now--I get to do it all again. Although time consuming-- it really is SO much fun. Trekking to the games--cheering for the team--the camaraderie with parents--I Love it all. Just wish I could hire a chef but I guess that's too much to ask. Good thing I got that Air Fryer for Christmas last year. It's coming in REAL handy these days--chicken tenders, wings, sweet potato fries, fish tacos. I'm a regular Julia Childs these days.............Bon Appetit. 

I'm really into reading James McBride these days too.  He is an incredibly gifted writer. I recently finished his second novel from 2002,  Miracle at St. Anna and  absolutely loved it. As the story unfolds, Hector Negron is a longtime postal worker in Harlem who shoots a customer in the face after he asks to buy a stamp. Negron is arrested and detained but will not speak. Meanwhile, the reader is transported to the village of St. Anna, Italy, in December 1944. Four U.S. Army soldiers from the 92 division--all black buffalo soldiers-- become trapped behind enemy lines after Private Sam Train tries to save an orphan boy named Angelo. The soldiers are stranded in the village of St. Anna, among villagers they don't understand with the German army breathing down their neck. Interestingly, these black American soldiers are fighting for the freedom of others, when they live in a world where their own freedom is questionable, and are serving in an Army that segregates them from others. Don't want to say much more except this novel was  inspired by actual events. It's not only about the terrors of war, but more importantly, about love, sacrifice, and  heroism as a group of men come to believe in the miracle at St. Anna. At 336 pages or a 4.5 mile run--I was sad to see it end because the characters were rich and the different story lines unforgettable. Enjoy. 

August 29, 2021 BACK ON MY FEET AGAIN

 Had a great run this morning--despite the broken toe. Yup. That's what I get for walking around barefoot.  I smashed my baby toe into the side of the couch last weekend. It has turned several colors--dark purple, blue, pink, yellow and now an ominous shade of grey. Couldn't put a shoe on for a few days but it's much better now. Not much you can do for a broken toe. Yoga and running have been a bit of a challenge BUT I'm getting it done. The toe doesn't hurt while I run--BUT after I run OUCH--a little ice really helps calm it down. Gotta be careful with the Chatturanga too. Never realized---exactly what the FOUR corners of the foot really meant until now. We take our feet for granted UNTIL WE CAN'T--never really paying attention to them UNTIL something happens. It's really a shame. If it weren't for our feet --we wouldn't be able to DO SO MANY THINGS. Think about it........ Did you know most people walk over 100,000 miles in their lifetime--and they aren't doing it on their hands. So I'm trying to be kinder to my feet because they have to last a lifetime. Zoe Walker, the main character in Clare Mackintosh's thriller, I See You, depends on her feet too--to keep her safe as she runs from a stalker in the London Underground. One day while on her commute home, Zoe sees her own face in a classified ad. The website is FindTheOne.com and it's an ad she didn't post. Each day, a different woman appears in the ad and Zoe finds out that the women in the ads are later victims of violent crimes. She goes to the police and a policewoman named Kelly takes her case. This psychological thriller is told in alternating points of view between Kelly and Zoe as Kelly and her partner Nick try to solve the case and keep Zoe and the other women in the ads alive. Find out who is behind the classified ads and the crimes when you read this suspense filled, creepy mystery for yourself. It's about 450 pages or a 4.5 mile run that might have you rethinking your routine. Enjoy.